The Truth About Dating As A Woman With A Disability…

31 Jan 2020
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I'm Molly, a typical sushi, makeup, and fashion loving millennial girl who just so happens to be blind! I was diagnosed with Retinitis Pigmentosa at just 4 years old and began public speaking at age 5. I started just doing motivational speaking, but now I make videos and even model! Even though I can’t see, I know that there are bright spots in everything we face. Let’s find them together. 💕

  • Did anything I shared in this video surprise you? What do you do to keep yourself safe when dating?

    Molly BurkeMolly BurkeVor 11 Monate

      Mystical MistyMystical MistyVor 6 Monate
    • Sweetheart you just started in the dating game you said nothing that surprise me you have your whole life to experience the disappointments as well as the good.

      Sprite BonnSprite BonnVor 9 Monate
    • 90%! Shocking!

      Nynke KNynke KVor 11 Monate
    • I knew that disabled women were more likely to be sexually assaulted or abused, but I didn’t know it was NINETY PERCENT. That’s pretty scary. I consider myself disabled, but as I have multiple chronic illnesses I don’t know if people like me would be included in that number. I HAVE been sexually assaulted, but with men grabbing things they should not grab, not being raped, so I don’t know if that is included in that stat either. I’m definitely looking that stat up!

      JanineBeanJanineBeanVor 11 Monate
    • Ya, surprised of being paid to be single :(

      KardallKardallVor 11 Monate
  • „Staying home is not the new going out“ Well that didn‘t age well

    MilaMilaVor 6 Tage
  • you might want to bring that pillow back in about 3 months.

    Laurel DameronLaurel DameronVor Monat
  • Watching this back to hear her say she’s finding love this year because she did 🥺❤️

    vanessagreenevanessagreeneVor Monat
  • Watching this in November and realizing the universe gave Molly a relationship :)

    Lena NguyenLena NguyenVor Monat
    • But made everyone stay home

      medallo143medallo143Vor 29 Tage
  • I dated a woman that used a wheelchair for six years and we were very close friends after that. She made it very apparent that she used a wheelchair in her dating site profile and to be quite honest she got plenty of dates and ended up married. The way she saw it, might as well weed out the people that are going to have an issue and spend your energy with the ones that don't. Just a thought

    singjeffsingsingjeffsingVor Monat
  • She was correct about the love thing too tho-

    Mazilla UnicornMazilla UnicornVor 3 Monate
  • You were right! I come from a few months later and you are dating a really awesome guy who loves you 👇🏻 👇🏻: this is how many people that also come from a few months later 👇🏻 and know who he is

    Kenna ScottKenna ScottVor 4 Monate
  • This is more like a Facebook promo than "the truth about..."

    Jenna BryanJenna BryanVor 4 Monate
  • Honestly I have decided to do an experiment. I disclose ny disability right off and if they run, they weren't the one.

    Chapstick AddictChapstick AddictVor 4 Monate
  • This video caused the pandemic lol

    omar reynosoomar reynosoVor 5 Monate
  • Yes molly you found love so cute

    Kate_OmegaKate_OmegaVor 5 Monate
  • Molly: I am finding love this year. Me: *After watching her boyfriend announcement video* - You weren't wrong.

    Sunmi LearnsSunmi LearnsVor 5 Monate
  • You picked a hell of a year to go all in on dating.

    Lisa KuklaLisa KuklaVor 5 Monate
  • I love you spiritually Moll x

    Mark LordMark LordVor 5 Monate
  • I haven't had much luck finding a date, and I recalled how women write prisoners. Then I found a site where you could write to female prisoners, and I gave it a shot. I'm getting a few replies.

    Anton SpivackAnton SpivackVor 6 Monate
  • Molly’s pillow becoming a real thing

    Jeremy LitsterJeremy LitsterVor 6 Monate
  • Hi Molly! I've been a huge fan for a while, and I'm just asking this out of curiosity, but where exactly does your sexuality stand? What I mean by that is are you like *completely* straight or like very *very* close to straight but not quite..? This is just out of curiosity, I don't mean to sound forceful in any way ❤

    Haven HessenbruchHaven HessenbruchVor 6 Monate
  • Yeah dating as disabled is very challenging I get you :/ good luck I hope it's going well for you 😁

    xx pxx pVor 6 Monate
  • Go girl, buttt i think you jinxed 2020 for all of us.. u know covid and everything. Love you tho

    Big fan 360 Big fan 360Big fan 360 Big fan 360Vor 6 Monate
  • @Molly Burke I bet this didn’t age well when you say “2020 I am going out...COVID-19!

    Tamala RovarisTamala RovarisVor 6 Monate
  • Has anyone you ever met not liked dogs or was allergic and told you to get rid of your dog.

    Tony TTony TVor 6 Monate
  • Wait can we just... can we just talk about that statistic she mentioned for a second? 90%. Fricken 9 out of every 10 women with disabilities, with any kind of disability, is sexually assaulted or raped!?! How the hell have I not heard about this before?! I’m angry. Like legitimately angry that this isn’t something I new before. This should be talked about. This should be known. This should be dealt with! Wow. Like, I technically have a disability but it has very little direct impact on my day to day life that I honestly don’t think about it (which is why I never say I’m disabled, but I’m not erasing anyone who disagrees with me!) and I am a woman so I already live with *some* fear of being assaulted or raped but I... I am horrified. Can you imagine living with that statistic in your head? Wow. This needs to change and this needs to change now.

    Erin BlanchardErin BlanchardVor 6 Monate
  • The intro aged really badly into 2020.

    EssaEssaVor 6 Monate
  • Molly thinks she is going out in 2020. hehehehehehehehehe

    Eliana MarcusEliana MarcusVor 7 Monate
  • I have this awesome idea for a dating app: A community for people, who don't want to have kids. It could be called Antinatalist-Mingle or something like that. I mean: There are all sorts of dating websites about different topics (like alternative music, chubby stature, academic success etc.), but THIS very specific issue of not wanting to have kids would actually be a lot more relevant.

    Salem SaberhagenSalem SaberhagenVor 7 Monate
  • 0:11 "I'm going out in 2020." Well, that didn't age well. xD

    Salem SaberhagenSalem SaberhagenVor 7 Monate
  • back in january i thought 2020 would be the year for love too... its been everything else but love this year lol

    Maggie BilladeauMaggie BilladeauVor 7 Monate
  • I used Facebook dating and found my current and we r going on month 7 come July. I was just looking for a few friends in my area and found him instead.

    The Unknown FairyThe Unknown FairyVor 7 Monate
  • Miss Molly Burke you're an amazing person please continue to do your things that you do because you inspire me everyday the thing is when I try to date it scares me to get out and try new things what can I do

    Samuel CooleySamuel CooleyVor 7 Monate
  • Hii! Thanks for this video and spreading info about this topic that isn't talked enough! I'm Autistic and don't know about the statics about it, but I've entered plently of abusive and toxic relationships because of my disability... I'm scared to enter in another relationship after my last one which was super traumatic for me! Even my doctor recommended me to take a lot of care with dating and that maybe it was better to be single, because of how easily I can be abused... We girls have to take care of each other backs! Love your videos and your personality, bye bye! ❤️

    鈴姫雪鈴姫雪Vor 7 Monate
  • i want to find new love in 2020 too. you aren't alone, molly.

    Hikari TakanashiHikari TakanashiVor 7 Monate
  • That pillow was right. Little did you know......

    Maggie FluffyMaggie FluffyVor 7 Monate
  • So im new to your channel and already obsessed by the way! When you go on dates to restaurants, do menus have braille or do you look up a menu online before going to know what they have to eat? Just interested to learn how you go about something that for sighted people seems so mundane :) hope this is OK to ask. Love you Molly 💜

    ellie gellie gVor 7 Monate
  • I really wish I didn’t learn that statistic yet, as a disabled teen. Dating is gonna be 10 times scarier now

    Maddie LombinoMaddie LombinoVor 7 Monate
  • Hopefully you'll find that special someone.

    Anton SpivackAnton SpivackVor 7 Monate
  • I'm going out in 2020 lol

    Mayra AguilarMayra AguilarVor 7 Monate
  • “I’m going out in 2020 and finding love” well this didn’t age well 😂😭😭

    Megan MillerMegan MillerVor 7 Monate
  • IM deafblind and i have gone on dates with deaf guys who simply dont respect me for me i have cp with ataxia, aspergers syndrome a form of autism spectrum disorder, adhd, ld, epilepsy seizure disorder and paralysis on my left side due to schizencephaly and cte with ataxia a form of chronic temporal epilepsy and my seizures are also in the left parietal lobe and schizencephaly is aform of porencephaly a neural tube defect but nothing stops me i was born blind became deaf at age 5 but i love your story you truy are an inspirational story to all who live with blindness i use a cane for blind but i think a guide dog would work for me except i have to clean my apt and keep it clean

    Wendy MacAskillWendy MacAskillVor 7 Monate
  • Dating is equally rough being an autistic male. Good luck to you. Not relying on site at all means you actually have a more realistic ‘view’ of the individual in terms of real personality and goals. This means you’re mostly immune to the pickup game.

    Raymond AllenRaymond AllenVor 7 Monate
  • That pillow is very relevant now. Sorry COVID is ruining your 2020 plans Molly!

    Maddie PMaddie PVor 7 Monate
  • Molly: Staying at home is not the new going out! I'm going out in 2020! Me, watching this in May 2020: yikes...

    Io GainesIo GainesVor 8 Monate
  • intro, your pillow... predicted the future!

    Ronita Ta Of The DayRonita Ta Of The DayVor 8 Monate
  • “I’m going out in 2020...” Covid-19: *ends your whole career*

    AsaAsaVor 8 Monate
  • I always wondered that about Gallop, if he would instinctually protect you. How far do you think he would be willing to go?

    Raccoon SpiritRaccoon SpiritVor 8 Monate
  • I am just picturing our service dogs sitting in the corner cleaning their harnesses (like dads do with their shotguns on tv/in movies) and looking sideways at our dates with a “what are your intentions with my girl?” Look on their face 😂😂😂

    Mandie ZangoraMandie ZangoraVor 8 Monate
  • Just realised that I have that exact fluffy cushion on my bed too 😂

    awesomage1awesomage1Vor 8 Monate
  • Oh no! Right after saying you'll go out and find love we all had to go into isolation .

    Jenny MJenny MVor 8 Monate
  • Wow! That pillow was so accurate!

    Horseling SHorseling SVor 8 Monate
  • 2020 I just finished my military service started a new career in a high paying job and was also dumped by the girl I dated for 5 years. So this is nice to hear that I can find love in 2020

    evilsanta8585evilsanta8585Vor 8 Monate
  • WHY doesn't she call get m (mom) ??!!

    Jenna DavidJenna DavidVor 8 Monate
  • How is she blind. Doesn't even look like she's blind

    Dhaval GilitDhaval GilitVor 8 Monate
    • What a stupid and ignorant comment!

      sunny4ladysunny4ladyVor 8 Monate
  • I'm shock at 90% is the percentage but when I regret telling my disability at first to others even in high school. I had full spine surgery and I depend on my legs as my strength because my arms are skinny and weak as well as my back. So a lot those relationships would break up with me when telling them later or try to sexual assault me and I'll kick them and scream. I even got told I won't get someone who wouldn't love me for my scar and rods and wouldn't take a no. But now I found a guy that has respect me and makes me a giggly mess. I'm still trauma by the past. Because the abuse can happen so soon or later but I know the red flags so quickly. I'm glad to have some good relationships between the toxic ones or I'll be too depressed and burden feeling to date again

    blurponyunicornblurponyunicornVor 8 Monate
  • Jeez, maybe you should have your guide dogs shitzhund trained when training for service dog! You can say one word and they will attack. Say another word they stop immediatly.

    Justice InsideJustice InsideVor 8 Monate
  • The universe kinda screwed you over on this one lol

    Domonic HumphreyDomonic HumphreyVor 8 Monate
  • Molly: “I’m going out in 2020” 0:11 COVID-19: I’m about to ruin this whole mans career

    jasmine garzonjasmine garzonVor 8 Monate
    • Omg I was just thinking this!

      TheGamer UnicornTheGamer UnicornVor 8 Monate
  • Gallop moving in his sleep in the background is love

    Sona SoodSona SoodVor 8 Monate
  • Whos watching this during quarantine?

    paloma herrerapaloma herreraVor 8 Monate
  • Molly: its 2020 and I'm getting out there! *covid enters chat*

    A AAAA AAAVor 8 Monate
  • Oh if you only knew *covid enters chat*

    A AAAA AAAVor 8 Monate
  • As a guy with CP, I can attest that dating was super hard for disabled men too. I had difficulty getting over the feeling that, because my disability is visible, people would judge before they even spoke to me. However, once I legitimately got over that fear and honestly started not to care so much about what other people thought, I met my fiancee. The VERY same night I pushed those thoughts away for good. We've been together 5 years. I wish I had done it much sooner so that we could have more life together.

    jorgeherterjorgeherterVor 8 Monate
  • That intro ended up being a HUGE Uno reverse card 😂

    Daniela BodohDaniela BodohVor 8 Monate
  • Little did she know. Corona would ruin any chance of dating in 2020

    Tess MooreTess MooreVor 8 Monate
  • "Staying home is the new going out" can't believe how ironic that is in 2020.

    asakiasakiVor 8 Monate
  • Well that intro didn’t age well.... lmfao

    Bobby CaldwellBobby CaldwellVor 8 Monate
  • Unfortunate timing with 2020...

    Lucy BladesLucy BladesVor 8 Monate
  • But... but Molly. Staying home IS the new going out..... Welcome to 2020

    Miriam AndersonMiriam AndersonVor 8 Monate
  • Molly: 2020 is the time to mingle *quarantine hits* Gov. : YOU THOUGHT WRONG

    PepperPepperVor 8 Monate
  • "I'm going OUT in 2020!" - Molly Burke Jan 31, 2020

    Jesse KamokaziJesse KamokaziVor 8 Monate
  • Jan/Feb: "I'm going out in 2020". March: No, no you're not 😅

    Kerry HKerry HVor 9 Monate
  • molly: "im going out and finding love in 2020, the universe is gonna brring it to me, i believe it" the universe in 2020 : quarentine lol

    maria alicemaria aliceVor 9 Monate
  • I'm on my mom's phone. This is important to tell for this comment. And I'm a boy. And I'm 11. And. KNOW. Some. ....nvm So I really don't wanna like anyone. I actually avoid loving people ;-; I don't talk to girls at all not even friendly. If a girl talks to me then I just try to end the conversation. Cause I don't want them to think that I'm a jerk that thinks. " OH ITS A GIRL" and many girls think that boys are weird machines that just. "SNIFF FOR FEMALE" i dont want people to think that about me. So I just stay away.

    Sara JanskySara JanskyVor 9 Monate
  • Anyone else watching this in quarantine and not knowing how to react when she throws that pillow? Gurl, you need that back.

    Oliwia WosOliwia WosVor 9 Monate
  • Oh, the irony. The video starts "I'm going out in 2020"

    Eleanor BowersEleanor BowersVor 9 Monate
  • I hate Facebook. Won't touch it with a ten foot pole! Most ladies I meet, I find from traveling the US. No need for some stupid app. Going to Las Vegas, Nevada in October after I finish my job here in Texas. My advice, stay single and have friends. Single life is the best life, because you don't have to "breakup with your friends". Everything you do is recorded in Facebook to sell your information. I'd rather not be someone's property to sell.

    Trimble & Topcon SurveyorTrimble & Topcon SurveyorVor 9 Monate
  • Molly: It's time to get rid of this pillow. Staying home is NOT the new going out! Me: *laughs in quarantine*

    Eszter VizhanyoEszter VizhanyoVor 9 Monate
  • Molly-I’m going out COVID-19- no your not. You’re staying home for a month.

    Tori ViarTori ViarVor 9 Monate
  • I tried to imagine being a woman whos meeting an unknown guy and what i could do to defend myself against an aggressiv, stronger, abusive guy. Scared me pretty hard. Tried to imagine being a blind woman and was already scared to s... at that point. Deepest respect to any blind or more like deepest respect to any woman disabled or not for going out there meeting an unknown guy without at least four years of self defense training. Written by a 200 pounds guy, whos arrogantly thinking he can take on three to four normal other guys

    Dave the DudeDave the DudeVor 9 Monate
  • no your not because of coronavirus

    Kira SmithKira SmithVor 9 Monate
  • Her: “I’m going out in 2020!!” Everyone in January 2020: “We’re going out in 2020” 2020: Sh*t happens

    Claire KClaire KVor 9 Monate
  • Just out of curiosity with dating if the guy pick you up in a car do you sit up fron and gallop in the back or do you sit in the back seat?

    Tyler JanisTyler JanisVor 9 Monate
  • i hvnt had an official date i hv danced w/ guys but never really has it been declared official date didnt get my crushes number tho b4 quarantine😭

    Mystical MistyMystical MistyVor 9 Monate
  • Molly: "staying home is not the new going out I'm going out In 2020" Me: Oh hunny

    Rachel DoleRachel DoleVor 9 Monate
  • Molly please tell us your bad date story

    Celia PatiernoCelia PatiernoVor 9 Monate
  • So I'm guessing the beginning of this video when you threw out the pillow that said "Staying home is the new going out" hasn't aged well....

    Rachael DickzenRachael DickzenVor 9 Monate
  • Being a guy with autism and mutism, datong is really hard for me. I need to text with the person for at least two weeks before even considering going out with them and it also seems really hard for most to understand how much energy i have to bring up to meet someone I‘ve never met before. Also because of the mutism I can‘t always speak so it can be quite challenging to say if I‘m feeling uncomfortable or to get out of a situation. I‘ve had some bad experiences with that. Also if the someone asks a question that has no logical answer I just can‘t answer it. Or if it‘s like multiple questions in one. Recently I‘ve been seeing a girl and I kinda like her but I‘m so afraid of anything going wrong that I‘m always stressed when I see her and it makes me kinda frustrated to not be able to communicate what I need and also no being able to „read“ her body language

    Leander DatoLeander DatoVor 9 Monate
  • I wish I was 28 not 38 so i had a shot with molly lol

    Golden Opportunities Coaching:Golden Opportunities Coaching:Vor 9 Monate
  • Molly: screw this pillow staying home is not the new going out. I'm going out in 2020 and i'm finding love this year.YAAAAAAAAAAAAAAY Me: laughs in quarantine I don't know why i found this part so funny

    Ava IAva IVor 9 Monate
  • good luck in your future endeavors hope you do find love but keep this in mind that with your disability yes you are at a disadvantage and you have to have patience but remember this, it takes patience to date a person with a disability too it's not one-sided.

    Sprite BonnSprite BonnVor 9 Monate
  • If I was a boy your age, id date u. You are beautiful and an amazing person

    Aubree LillianAubree LillianVor 9 Monate
  • And then: Corona happened... ^^

    Philipp BlumPhilipp BlumVor 9 Monate
  • molly: staying home is NOT the new going out! I'm going out in 2020! me: girl, you wish. sorry to break it to you, but we all gonna have a lockdown soon cause of some coronavirus.

    kolkiikolkiiVor 9 Monate
  • Molly: I am not saying in. I am going out in 2020 COVID-19: I think no

    K8thegr8foreverK8thegr8foreverVor 9 Monate
  • you look so beautiful omg!!!!!!!

    Karolina GromadaKarolina GromadaVor 9 Monate
  • You already have a boy friend your dog

    Christine GChristine GVor 9 Monate
  • Watching this in April. When she throws the pillow and says going out is the new staying in... ouch.

    kmdx316kmdx316Vor 9 Monate
  • Watching this video at 3 AM worst Pered Cramps ever

    kai is finekai is fineVor 9 Monate
  • Hi Molly. I love you.

    Kylie MuffickKylie MuffickVor 9 Monate
  • Well that intro aged terribly.

    Anıl Tankut DilaverAnıl Tankut DilaverVor 9 Monate
  • Molly: staying home is NOT the new going out I’m going OUT in 2020 and finding love! Me in 2020 watching this at 2 am in quarantine: bahaha ur not going out my friend.

    Madz HuangMadz HuangVor 9 Monate
    • Lol I'm up at 2:20 am right now...

      Alexia 24Alexia 24Vor 7 Monate
    • Same!!!

      AngieAngieVor 8 Monate