Why I Hate Being Called “Differently Abled”

26 Mai 2020
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I'm Molly, a typical sushi, makeup, and fashion loving millennial girl who just so happens to be blind! I was diagnosed with Retinitis Pigmentosa at just 4 years old and began public speaking at age 5. I started just doing motivational speaking, but now I make videos and even model! Even though I can’t see, I know that there are bright spots in everything we face. Let’s find them together. 💕

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  • Hey I hope you are safe and healthy. I am also blind, and a guide dog user. I never really thought of the expression differently abled this way. I don't know if it actually suggests a discomfort with disability. To me this expression suggests acceptance of doing things differently. Usually people are uncomfortable with doing certain thing in a different way. For example if I am trying to look for a door handle with my hands some sighted people would rush me and get inpatient. Or if I am doing group work and I am using a screen reader my sighted peers do not understand it, and may find it weird or out of norm. Last time I was doing research for a paper and I read about a guy who was asked to leave a restaurant because he ate with his feet. It is true that he is disabled in the sense that he did not have the ability to use his arms or hands. But he is also differently abled in the sense that he could use his feet. If we only focus on the disabled part, then people will continue to feel uncomfortable with other ways of doing things such as eating with one's feet. With that being said, I understand what you mean when talking about people trying to put a positive spin on it because they are so uncomfortable with the reality, and how that takes away from all the struggles.

    Katia HadjebKatia HadjebVor 3 Tage
  • I have a disability/chronic illness called Type 1 Diabetes. (***which is completely different from "diabetes", "type 2 diabetes" ***) And people make stickers and shit that say "Type One-Durful" and it makes me SO MAD. Like STOP. I almost die at least once a day, it is not wonderful lol

    Griffondor WitchGriffondor WitchVor 6 Tage
  • Here's my opinion I'm not uncomfortable by talking about your disability. I am so obviously aware of the challenges disabled people face. Maybe this is because Molly is a highly empowered person (LOVE that for her) but in India most (not all) disabled people are facing VERY VERY DIFFICULT challenges that are UNIMAGINABLE for even an empowered disable person like Molly. So when I say differently abled I AM trying to make them feel better by empowering them. This is just my opinion cause I think Molly comes from a more privileged background than most people in India. So here we need to focus more on the positives so that we can help them accomplish things they can with their disability, while helping them overcome the challenges they face with their disability. In short here when I hear disabled the image that comes to mind is not someone like Molly. Not to undermine Molly's disability but just giving yall my point of view. So I feel that your culture and privilege do play a role in what you would call a disabled person I know the community here is open to discussion and that is why I feel comfortable to share my opinion Thank you Molly and this wonderful community for that

    Shreya SanjayShreya SanjayVor 6 Tage
  • In my county, I've heard disabled people saying that they liked the term differently-abled more. Now I'm just confused.

    Shreya SanjayShreya SanjayVor 6 Tage
  • What do you thing about "different needs"?

    mnmtomicmnmtomicVor 6 Tage
  • Did she ever make the medical vs social video?

    Lydia K.Lydia K.Vor 6 Tage
  • When I first heard the phrase "differently-abled" I thought it was the most weird and bizarre thing ever. As a person who has a disability, I couldn't understand why someone would want to day that. I mean saying disability isn't bad. It's not a dirty word or anything. Or maybe I'm just the weird one and saying "differently-abled" is completely normal now.

    Aaron BodineAaron BodineVor 6 Tage
  • this whole video and all these comments LOL to many over thinking crazy people in this world. the truth is people will get offended no matter what way i say things so il just say it the way i want to from the start.

    laus loralaus loraVor 10 Tage
  • Yes. The term "differently-abled" ends conversation about modifications and how to best make those modifications happen; & it does gloss over the need for modifications by "PolyAnna-ing" inability. I've never taken it as a personal slight or condescension though.. Rather akin to a backhanded compliment.

    Andie EarlyAndie EarlyVor 10 Tage
  • I’m in the UK and I feel like the word ‘handicapped’ is seen as way more inappropriate here than it is in America. It was phased out as a term that we used a couple of generations ago really and it has always made me cringe hearing Americans say it all the time, so I’d love to hear you talk about it. As a disabled person myself, I also hate ‘differently abled’. I feel like it’s a prime example of how ‘political correctness’ is often more offensive than the things they are trying to claim that we shouldn’t say. Language has power over the concepts that it stands for and people who use the term ‘differently abled’ often also minimise the difficulties and issues that we face and, as a consequence, end up not catering to our needs. My disability has gradually progressed and wasn’t diagnosed until my 30’s so I spent many years fighting to have my symptoms and difficulties taken seriously. Being called ‘differently abled’ feels like being told ‘there’s nothing wrong with you, quit making a fuss’ all over again.

    Gabe AngelGabe AngelVor 12 Tage
  • I think a lot of the people who use the term differently-abled are able to accept disabled people, but feel like those people go through so much and must be so miserable that they have to try to put a positive spin on the term which simply isn't true. Most of the disabled people I know have long since come to terms with and embraced their disabilities and don't view them as a burden, but just as part of who they are. Now ableism on the other hand is a huge burden on the disabled community as able bodied people don't seem to want to give up their privilege to accommodate accessibility for disabled people. This is what we should be focused on is ableism and accessibility not sugarcoating by calling someone differently-bled. jmo

    Jim VrchotaJim VrchotaVor 14 Tage
  • People who use differently abled remind me of the people who act afraid or dance around the word black when talking about my race or the race as a whole lol, people will say colored, poc, African American like it’s ok to say black it’s not an offensive word unless you’re using it offensively of course which is the same as using the word disabled!

    Aubrey GlennAubrey GlennVor 16 Tage
  • Thank you!! As someone who is almost legally blind I can see enough for people to think (and forget) that I can't see most of what they think I "should" be able to see. This is one reason, out of many, that there needs to be more light shed on disabilities and the more you say "differently-abled" the worse it makes it for people with disabilities that you can't see.

    Chelsea CrabillChelsea CrabillVor 16 Tage
  • So I have dyslexia and I’ve been told it’s a disability but I’ve also been told that it’s a learning different by teachers and everything so what do you think I’m differently abled or disabled?

    ali millerali millerVor 17 Tage
  • I have a physical disability/mental illness and OMG So. Much. This. I HATE “Handicapped/differently abled”!!! Shared this on my Facebook, nice!! And yes please do the history of handicapped video!

    Ashley LaverdiereAshley LaverdiereVor 17 Tage
  • "differently abled" ist just another aspect of toxic positivity. like you said, we need to acknowledge the problems in order to solve them.

    iisamoriiiisamoriiVor 17 Tage
  • YES to the social model of disability! It’s absolutely the model that I practice as a special education teacher 💛✨ And, girl, don’t get me started on “diff-ability” or similar terms that make disabled people sound somehow taboo... There is no way we can move forward to make the world more inclusive and accessible without seeing the real barriers and challenges faced by the disabled community. PS. LOVE your videos with my whole heart! I worked in vision support last year and your videos helped me so much. It was my first time working with a student with blindness so the learning curve of Braille, O&M, technology adaptations, etc was huge! Your positivity set a real fire in me to believe that my student could do amazing things & I know that made me a better teacher. You’re an amazing role-model.

    Hannah YoungHannah YoungVor 17 Tage
  • Loved this video. Found it so interesting. I'm 50 with a genetic disability that didn't really affect my life until I was about 40, and it kicked in hard. I feel behind the learning curve. Anyway, I do have a question about the word handicapped. And yes please to all those videos you mentioned. I'm American, and I didn't notice it till you mentioned it, that we do use that word. For me, I have used it regarding handicapped parking spaces, because I've never heard them called anything else. When I'm referring to myself, I say disabled. Do I just say accessible parking? Sounds so odd but I get because it's new. Please correct me if I'm still using it incorrectly. I'm definitely going to read the article but would love the video too. Thanks!

    samiamismesamiamismeVor 18 Tage
  • Great video!

    Elizabeth ThomasElizabeth ThomasVor 21 Tag
  • wow this really opened my eyes to this issue! im an early childhood educator and i have seen this movement pop up so much lately.. especially within parents/teachers of children with cognitive disabilities.

    Emma KaiserEmma KaiserVor 23 Tage
  • Love your pretty blue outfit.

    Wendy SimonWendy SimonVor 25 Tage
  • I feel the same about my ADHD. like the word deficit is literally in the title of the disorder implying that my attention is at a deficit. I'm not just differently abled, I actually have less of an ability do do something.

    Maya FarrellMaya FarrellVor Monat
  • I've never heard the social and the medical model of disability and I have a disability. I would love a video on that.I think I know what you're talking about but I don't think I've ever heard it labeled.

    Eskimo PieEskimo PieVor Monat
  • Please make handicapped word video!

    Eskimo PieEskimo PieVor Monat
  • I use "diffrently abled" because school wants me to master geometry, and then i realise i can't even get a -d in geometry.

    Tabby3456Tabby3456Vor 2 Monate
  • I have multiple physical disabilities. I hate the term differently-abled. It makes me feel indescribable rage. I don't consider the term cripple or disabled as an insult. It's what I am. I know I'm disabled so using a PC term doesn't change that or make it better or easier. I'll never get better, and in reality, my disabilities are progressive so I will get worse. There is no sugar coating it by using a different term or terms that are considered nicer or inclusive. I prefer saying it the way it is I'm cripple/disabled. A walking paraplegic who will one day be completely paralyzed.

    VedaVedaVor 2 Monate
  • The way I see it, calling someone "differently abled" is just a cheap way to put responsibility for that person's situation on that person themselves, negating the need for anyone else to make an effort to accomodate their needs.

    Scarletlight525Scarletlight525Vor 2 Monate
  • Being called differently abled is extremely patronizing

    Morning castMorning castVor 2 Monate
  • This was so eye-opening! I'd love to learn more about the history of the word "handicapped." I have some disability myself, but know little about it on a community level. (I always felt "differently abled" sounded a bit pretentious and patronizing, myself. All it seems to me to accomplish is imply that being disabled isn't okay. And maybe it's not textbook ideal, per se, but who's to judge that means it has to be bad.)

    Bonnie BraeBonnie BraeVor 3 Monate
  • I don’t think I ever heard of ‘Differently Abled’ before, but maybe that’s because I’m American. One other thing not to call a disabled person is ‘retarded’ or ‘the R word’

    BooilaBooilaVor 3 Monate
  • I am sooooo in love with you!!! Omg I just found your channel. I am a mommy of three with Cerebral Palsy. Your raw real self is amazing. I was recently on barcroft born Different with family. I would love to do a get real video with you as a disabled women. We run a nonprofit 501c3 called Thriving with CP Inc. We keep it real just like you👏👏❤️

    Valerie Lawrence Thriving with CP !Valerie Lawrence Thriving with CP !Vor 3 Monate
  • Preach 🙌

    Caitie FCaitie FVor 3 Monate
  • Hi Molls! I've always said accessible instead of handicapped except if I'm referring to like a "handicapped parking pass" which I know I should say acsessible, but sometimes I say it on accident and then feel really bad because I try to be as involved as possible with accessibly in general for all disabled people. How should I correct myself or apologize without being... Frantic, I guess? I'm trying to stop saying it but it just slips up sometimes. Also, to add to that, my grandpa is one of those people who is like, homophobic and doesn't understand disabilities and will say really offensive things without realizing it, (nothing on purpose though.) I'm trying to help him learn how to be more understanding and supportive, do you have any tips for that? Because lemme tell you, it's bad. Love you and your content, you've helped me through a lot ❤

    Haven HessenbruchHaven HessenbruchVor 3 Monate
  • I feel this way about autism. I think a lot of the "positive spin" really minimizes the challenges faced by some individuals

    flawlessblondieflawlessblondieVor 4 Monate
  • Ugh, talk about condescending and cringey virtue signaling! (rolls eyes) We have a similar (but not as negative) situation in Japan. "A person with a disability" is written 障害者 in kanji, but woke people are starting to use the kanji 障碍者 instead, because - like the "differently abled" - it's supposedly "offensive". To any sane person, this is nonsense, because a disability is a disability. Duh. Both 障害 and 障碍 (shogai) mean "obstacle/hurdle", and 者 (sha) means person. But the connotations of 害 and 碍 are different: 害 is a kanji mostly used for disastrous things, such as natural disasters and disease outbreaks. They are mostly things that people cannot control. 碍 on the other hand, is mostly used for personal struggles and obstacles. They are mostly things that people can overcome. But hellooooo? A disability IS a disastrous thing, and you CAN'T overcome it (as in if you try hard that disability heals naturally). It's NOT a personal struggle; it is something they're born with, and they had no choice! I HATE IT when people try to sugar coat serious issues! I feel that sugar coating into more positive phrases is low-key saying "Nah, they're fine. Stop making it such a big deal", when it is the completely opposite (and a huge irony as well). Disabled people are struggling ffs! Not having a sense or body part that a "normal" human being should have is a serious physical and mental issue! They NEED our help! Both 障碍者 and "differently abled" sound like disabled people are just people who have their own different way of living, like how every person has their own personality and tastes. No, they are not. They FUNCTION differently. They are FORCED to function differently. Disabled people didn't choose to be disabled. The word "disability" means what it means - not being able to do. Saying that they are able is a complete lie. A cruel lie. Whenever you have a problem, you must acknowledge the problem. A disability is a disability. Plain and simple. Sugar coating words only makes people not serious about the issues. (Sorry that I kinda repeated what Molly said in the video) Also, I heard that in a certain kid's anime, a character said that mixed race people are not "half" but "double". WTF. Umm....excuse me? I am a "half" (ハーフ / that's how we call ourselves in Japanese) because I am HALF American and HALF Japanese. In numbers, it's 50% + 50%. That makes me 100% human. But if I am "double", doesn't that make me 200% human? Whaaaattt!!? (o_0) Geez, I'm not a friggin' alien or something. (rolls eyes) Ugh, woke people... Making the world unnecessarily complicated than it already is... (deep sigh) We don't need you folk to patronise us and tell us who we are.

    MizzkieMizzkieVor 4 Monate
  • I straight up have only referred to the accessible parking spaces as handicapped parking... Damn I suck. Won’t use that anymore. 😅 thanks Molly! ❤️

    Bryanna BranchBryanna BranchVor 4 Monate
  • Me introducing Molly to someone: this is Molly she is visually im-(Molly cringes)-pressive, I mean look at her she is stunning

    Maggie RalphMaggie RalphVor 4 Monate
  • your hair is very flattering

    ParadoxicallySweetParadoxicallySweetVor 4 Monate
  • Meat starts at 6:30 if anyone else likes to skim ahead the introduction :)

    Jenna BryanJenna BryanVor 4 Monate
  • So I was ignorant to the word handicap until right now after watching your video. So I googled it to educate myself a little bit and from what I read, here’s the attached link www.todayifoundout.com/index.php/2013/12/origin-word-handicap/ , my understanding is handicap just means making something equal, equal advantage to whatever the situation is, for the person with a disability. So I still don’t understand why the word handicap has become so offensive. It means making some thing equal. Help me understand.

    Oo OooOo OooVor 4 Monate
  • i have many friends who are autistic (including myself, though very mild) and we all see it as a bad thing

    cognitive_playercognitive_playerVor 4 Monate
  • Loved this video! Super educational

    Lo AndersonLo AndersonVor 4 Monate
  • I know it’s not the same but I get the acceptance part. I was at work and a kid was being a kid and called me fat. The parent was so embarrassed and I was like 🤷‍♀️ he’s not wrong. Thank you for putting out relevant content and for educating people.

    Emily PatelEmily PatelVor 4 Monate
  • i am mathematically disabled. (but jokes aside, great video. i'm tired of 'woke' folks 'defending' people who they think need a voice without actually hearing from them first.)

    Joyce HoJoyce HoVor 4 Monate
  • I had no idea handicapped wasn't appropriate anymore. Thanks for educating me! What's the reason handicapped isn't appropriate?

    somethingsmattersomethingsmatterVor 4 Monate
  • Hey Molly, long time viewer of your channel! Just wanted to thank you for this video, and let you know I talked a little about it on Today's Podcast! My Podcast Cinema Buns, is all about Film/TV, and today's Ep was about Autism on Screen, specifically reviewing Love on the Spectrum. I started the podcast by referencing this video of yours as a note about language and labels. I told people to come check out your great content, and linked you in the description. Thanks girl! -Kat anchor.fm/cinemabuns/episodes/Autism-on-Screen-Love-on-the-Spectrum-Review-ep--14-eih1gs

    SundancekatSundancekatVor 4 Monate
  • Shouldn’t differently able be used for everyone to create a truly equal society as everyone has challengers and significant struggles which need some accommodations to enable things to be accessible for all. Because doesn’t every life matter equally.

    Lizzy BethLizzy BethVor 5 Monate
  • Thank you for being so upfront. How do you feel about others asking disabled individuals how they want to be identified or supported? That is something in Ontario that we’re encouraged to do is allow the disabled individual to lead the conversation in how he/she prefers to be seen. What are your thoughts on that approach? Would you (or do you ever) feel frustrated having to constantly be asked how you want to be identified or do you appreciate it?

    Deanna ChristineDeanna ChristineVor 5 Monate
  • I can understand the original sentiment. It was an attempt to gloss over the tendency of the older generation to assume that disabled people can’t do anything for themselves. So put a spin on it, to say that “oh, well here’s the things they *can* do. They’re *differently abled*”. It’s outdated now, and just comes across as patronizing.

    Katie Greenhalgh-HighamKatie Greenhalgh-HighamVor 5 Monate
  • I've got ADHD, which is often compared with blindness. Some people describe it as being "nearsighted in time", since we're not very good with planning or anticipating, so we often "bump into" things unprepared. Someone also said that, when telling people about the things we struggle with, and they say they have that too sometimes, it's like saying to a blind person "Oh I know what that's like. I also have my eyes closed sometimes." It's rediculous! And then there's the people who say that ADHD is a gift. Supposedly people with ADHD are highly creative and able to function in high stress situations way better than neurotypical people. This is where I, again, compare ADHD with blindness. You often hear about blind people having amazing hearing to compensate for their lack of sight, for example, which leads to them being able to hear things us sighted people aren't able to hear. Does that make being blind a gift? I think not. Same with ADHD. We might be able to cope with stressful situations, but maybe that's because we're less capable of preventing stressful situations in the first place, so we have to learn how to function in stressful situations to compensate for the fact that we're unable to prevent them. So yeah, I agree with you. A disability is a disability. Deal with it.

    How to humanHow to humanVor 5 Monate
  • Uncomfortable topics aren’t discussed enough. Thanks for starting conversation Molly!

    Hannah DrakeHannah DrakeVor 5 Monate
  • First let me say I love your videos and watch them regularly. Clearly I missed this one and just noticed. It made me do some soul searching and I realized thatI still HATE referring to myself as "disabled". I was able bodied into my early 40's. I had two kids. I raised them and also raised and saddle broke 3 horses. I was a Registered nurse who specialized in behavioral health. I was financially independent. I was stronger than the average woman from growing up around horses and all of the physical work that goes into riding and caring for a horse and it's home. As a young child I was a gymnast before riding became my passion. I had exceptional balance. Then started the mystery symptoms that (very long story shorter) progressed until a crisis point when I was diagnosed with cervical spinal stenosis which had caused spinal cord damage. It has been nearly a decade that I have walked like someone who has had a few drinks, wouldn't even think about riding a horse, if I squat down, I can't stand back up due to myopathy in my legs. The cervicogenic migraines are excruciating and my career ended. I loose my balance all of the time and if I'm not near something to lean on, I fall. I desperately want a mobility Service dog but can not afford one now that I am barely getting by, living on disability. I went from feeling invincible to vulnerable, something I had never felt in my life. I have accepted the things like my career and my horses which I have lost due to this condition but I hate feeling like a victim. I know that I am disabled. I can not do the job I did for 26 years. I have the parking permit to prove it and I still feel ashamed when I use it because I don't "look disabled enough" and get dirty looks from people who don't know what is wrong with my walking/balance. I hate being dependent upon other people. If I could have anything (other than the obvious, my health back, ) it would be a service dog. I have always loved animals and they have always been such a big part of my life. I would rather have a dog help me than have to ask a person.

    Denise maloney pirenDenise maloney pirenVor 5 Monate
  • In my language we only have the word "handicap" to refer to disabled people. If you look up "disabled" in a vocabulary, it'll say "handicappet" in my language. I think that's why a lot of people still use that word in America, since they have more immigration, and the word "handicap" is more international than the word "disabled"

    Annika OehlenschlægerAnnika OehlenschlægerVor 5 Monate
  • "differently-abled", avoiding saying the word as it makes them feel awkward (as Molly said), makes it seem like your disability doesn't exist.. it's like your struggles don't exist and possibly means people start acting like you don't have challenges, which in turn means you may not get support

    Kerry HKerry HVor 5 Monate
  • i like how molly said if you need to pee go pee right when I realised I need to go pee lol.

    Ava-cherry HubrickAva-cherry HubrickVor 5 Monate
  • I have right side Cerebral Palsy and you sum up my thought's exactly. A good friend of mine works supporting people in a group home and uses this sort of language and thought. I've debated her about it telling her even though that's how she's trained people like me kinda take offense with the "ablewashing" of it. Only thing with me is growing up here in america where handicapped was the default term and disability was short for social services I originally had the opposite opinions on what term for disability insulted me.

    Wolfgang KovacWolfgang KovacVor 5 Monate
  • THANK YOU! Every time someone refers to my autistic kids as "differently-abled" I am like "uhh what". It minimizes their struggles.

    Our LANDing CrewOur LANDing CrewVor 5 Monate
  • PLS MAKE A VIDEO ON HANDICAP THE WORD

    Jessica PrinceJessica PrinceVor 5 Monate
  • I just watched more so.....

    Grace EunsonGrace EunsonVor 5 Monate
  • Why is it offensive to say handicapped! I’m sorry I just don’t understand! 🥺🥺🥺

    Grace EunsonGrace EunsonVor 5 Monate
  • I am so grateful for the topics you discuss! I am not disabled and have never liked the term handicap or differently abled, however, what do I know?! Now I know so thank you! I don't have any disabled friends so it's always been a shoulder shrug, 'I don't know' kind of topic. I love your fashion sense! I'm terrible at fashion but I'd love to have someone in my life to teach me lol! Take care!

    Ayla LambogliaAyla LambogliaVor 5 Monate
  • I'm not sure if you already made the video but I would love to hear about the history of the word "handicapped". My dad had a handicap sticker so we always used that word. I didn't know it was viewed negatively. My mom now uses a handicap sticker as well.

    jyn88jyn88Vor 5 Monate
  • Thank you for making this video, Molly! I definitely learned something today.

    jyn88jyn88Vor 5 Monate
  • This is my first time hearing "differently abled".

    jyn88jyn88Vor 5 Monate
  • Every time I am newly shaven I feel good too lol

    jyn88jyn88Vor 5 Monate
  • We had to learn about that in elementary school and it was so weird “saying disabled is rude, they aren’t DISabled, they’re DIFFERENTLY abled. They can do everything we can do, just differently!” It was so horrible, it was like they just stopped acknowledging the struggles that disabled people go through.

    M & EM & EVor 5 Monate
  • This reminds me so much of the people who say they don’t see race. This is why I have a big pet peeve about people using mental illnesses like ADHD and OCD “I was like so ADHD earlier” It frustrates when people feel they can compare their attention to detail or lack of concentration because they were’t interest in something to someone who struggles every single day with the side effects of these illnesses. I am ADHD and I have dyslexia in case anyone was curious.

    Abby GodsenAbby GodsenVor 5 Monate
  • Why would anyone dislike this video? 🙃🙃🙃

    itzel hernandezitzel hernandezVor 5 Monate
  • Molly, yes, please do the history of handicapped. Great video. ❤️

    Laura BrownLaura BrownVor 5 Monate
  • Wow, Molly Burke's view on life and living with a disability or a disease is similar to our beloved Claire Wineland's. They would have been awesome friends. I miss Claire so much, but I'm happy we have Molly around. The two crown jewels of DEhave, in my opinion.

    LuLuVor 5 Monate
  • I must admit, I haven't heard the term "differently abled," until now. You learn something new everyday.

    Donna MartinezDonna MartinezVor 5 Monate
  • didn't know the word "handicap" has such a bad connotation in English because (correct me if I'm wrong) in French "une personne handicapé" is the correct and normal translation when talking about a person with a disability.

    FleurDeCerisierFleurDeCerisierVor 5 Monate
  • I feel like with differently abled (for the people that aren’t awkwardly avoiding and dancing around the subject of the issue) is INTENDED to be nice, like something along the lines of “shes still able to do thing” or “she isn’t disabled from everything” but a much better way to say it would be disabled, but still capable of many many things.

    Diana JonesDiana JonesVor 5 Monate
  • Anyone know where her outfit is from??? I love a good matching set and that fabric is everything

    Jaslyn FergusonJaslyn FergusonVor 5 Monate
  • I love you Molly and this video

    amanda Couseamanda CouseVor 5 Monate
  • I never knew there was something wrong with the word “handicapped” ... I really didn’t. Where I live they just use it for everything for disabled people. Im gonna stop using it now that I know.

    ElineElineVor 5 Monate
  • In the discourse of current day U.S., I think differently abled is similar to "color blind". It denies that the individual has challenges based on their, race or ability. Both are examples of people being 'woke' Edit: I'd also like to include the fact that just because my disability is not visible, doesnt deny that I do, in fact, have a disability.

    Valeria MintonValeria MintonVor 5 Monate
  • Such a great video! I would absolutely love a video on ableism!

    SophieSophieVor 5 Monate
  • Hey Molly! Thank you so much for sharing! I have no disabilities and personally I think it's great that you're speaking up and giving us a few lessons and saying things how they really are. I've learnt a lot on how to treat people with a better and non offensive approach. Wish you the best, take care!

    Dylan RibeiroDylan RibeiroVor 5 Monate
  • Please make that social model video so I can send it to eeevvvverrrryyyyooooonnnnnneeee I know

    Stinky CheesemanStinky CheesemanVor 5 Monate
  • I HATE the word differently abled. I just feel like it enforces the idea that we can still do everything everyone else does. Like no. There’s things I can’t do. Period. I feel like when they say differently abled they still expect me to be able to do everything an abled bodied person can do but I can’t, and differently abled just creates a false expectation

    TheOneWithTheServiceDogTheOneWithTheServiceDogVor 5 Monate
  • I would watch "why you should never say handicapped" im disabled myself and i dont even know this lol

    RatonicxRatonicxVor 5 Monate
  • ‘Differently-abled’ has always kinda rubbed me the wrong way for exactly the reasons in this video. Because no, you’re not necessarily differently abled. You’re lacking something that is important that impairs your ability to function the same way an able bodied person does. Molly’s blindness is not simply different, it’s difficult and challenging and can be hard to live with and impacts how she lives on a daily basis. A wheelchair user is not simply differently abled, this person has difficulty or cannot walk and that severely inhibits how you live your life. My PTSD is not just different, it’s difficult and makes life really hard to navigate in a world that doesn’t accept it as a real disability. Overall, ‘differently abled’ trivializes people’s experiences and almost makes it seem like a quirky personality trait. It negates struggles, it puts sometimes unrealistic expectations on disabled people and it’s uh pretty shitty.

    Sydney McPhersonSydney McPhersonVor 6 Monate
  • Yes please, history on handicapped

    Debolina MondalDebolina MondalVor 6 Monate
  • I’m kinda on the fence about the social vs medical models of disability. I believe that I as a disabled person deserve to be treated like a person and that there is nothing wrong with me just because I have a disability. However, my disability affects my lungs and immune system and will likely kill me one day. Because of that, I would be open to a cure or treatment if there was one available. However, I still shouldn’t be treated as if I’m fragile or unable to succeed if I don’t have a cure.

    Emma GuzmanEmma GuzmanVor 6 Monate
  • I never understood why people are so afraid of the word disabled. I’ve been disabled since I was 9 but I never knew I was actually disabled because everyone around me has always been too scared to use the word disabled. I was 16 before my doctor slipped up and said disability and it just kinda clicked in my head. Now I access to more resources to help me and I feel more accepted in the disabled community.

    Emma GuzmanEmma GuzmanVor 6 Monate
  • What is the history of the word handicap?

    DanielleDanielleVor 6 Monate
  • Not differently abled, disabled, but still capable

    Maddie SMaddie SVor 6 Monate
  • Wow, I am really sorry. I have never really thought about this before. Now I know and will do better. Knowledge is power.

    Sasha NeubauerSasha NeubauerVor 6 Monate
  • I want to hear the history of handicapped please.

    firstname lastnamefirstname lastnameVor 6 Monate
  • I feel like the words differently abled means that the disabled can not do what the fully abled people can do. Like ride horse, or ski. Both of which Molly loves to do

    Maggie FluffyMaggie FluffyVor 6 Monate
  • This is so informative. I have never even heard the term differently abled actually but it is good to know your take on things and i have a new look on the work handicap and know how to refer to people without offending anyone. My dad is disabled. and I grew up hearing the word handicap a lot but i always say disabled.

    KristinaNina19KristinaNina19Vor 6 Monate
  • Thank you for raising awareness about what makes you feel uncomfortable! Someone had to talk about it, and I’m glad it was you. 🥰 I think you should make a video about social and medical model of disability. After all, where else can we get this info, honestly?

    Snow LeopardSnow LeopardVor 6 Monate
  • I’m high functioning autistic and in the most literal sense, I’m *technically* differently abled rather than disabled. But because abled people seem to think they get to decide which of my problems are real when they don’t outright call me disabled, I can and will call myself disabled until my dying breath. (Or until people stop trying to claim I can’t be experiencing sensory overload because I am, and I quote, “barely not neurotypical,” but I figure my death will come first).

    Overly Friendly CryptidOverly Friendly CryptidVor 6 Monate
  • I absolutely love you MOLLY! 🇨🇦💙💙💜

    Brittany SaccoBrittany SaccoVor 6 Monate
  • Omg I could not agree more with you. I hate the term differently-abled. Handicapped didn't bother me growing up, but I'm 42 so that was the perferd term when I was a kid over the the even more awful word crippled. Handicapped is a word that bothered once I learned about. As adult with Cerebral Palsy, like you l call it what it is, a disability. I am disabled.

    Katherine PhiefferKatherine PhiefferVor 6 Monate
  • Okay soooo i have AWFUL vision. Like its really bad. My glasses are literally 0.5 inch thick. But i am NOT blind. Dis- as a prefix means "not" or "opposite". Disabled literally means not abled. If anything, I am "differently abled" because i DO still have the ability to see, its just different. A blind person does NOT have the ability. But this is the most generous I can get because literally every single one of us is "differently abled". No two people have the exact same abilities at the exact same levels. Preach it molly. Preach it.

    Whitney EvansWhitney EvansVor 6 Monate
  • Yes to all the videos you suggested

    Whitney EvansWhitney EvansVor 6 Monate
  • Wow, I have never even heard the term differently abled. Kind of glad I haven't.

    Miyanoai14Miyanoai14Vor 6 Monate
  • Hi Molly, I really like your content. I have a physical difference but it isn’t a disability. I only look different but it doesn’t affect anything I do. I don’t like people calling me differently abled however I don’t like people saying I have a disability either, because I don’t. What would your opinion be on this.

    Cassie MerleCassie MerleVor 6 Monate
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